Aleks and Bastian did quite well and it was 10 minutes before they were really running completely amok, pulling all the science fiction paperbacks out at random on the second floor. Jon ushered them outside to await Kevin's final purchases. Suzanne, co-owner of the shop, recognized that Kevin must be visiting our family from out of town. Kevin confirmed and she told him that she "loves those kids."Apparently they both agree that we're awesome parents and our kids are just phenomenal in their confidence and curiosity.
As someone who's frequently trying to hold onto a three-year-old while finding where the copies of The Apocalypse Door and Not of Woman Born all go, it's hard for me to always recognize this as true. As much as the energy and self-assuredness of my children results in meltdowns and difficulties for all of us, I am always trying to remind myself that these same facts will serve them incredibly well as they grow. Knowing that they are unafraid, completely comfortable in most situations, and speak to adults as they would anyone, I can see that they will most surely become who they are. I can see that they will do what they need to do to accomplish their deepest desires and dream huge, without the same extent of questioning and doubting that the rest of us non-unschooled adults are burdened with. When I see who they are and acknowledge how I am raising them, I recognize the bits of them that are respected and valued as autonomous and wonderful and how this will in all likelihood result in the independent thought and critical thinking I want so badly for them when they are grown. What's more is that it is so extraordinary that these childless neighbors recognize it too.
After the bookstore, Aleks convinced Kevin to buy he and Bastian toys at Big Fun. When I came home that evening, there was a puddle underneath a red bowl on one of our lovely antique side tables in the living room with these eggs inside.
2 comments:
Even though it does sort of annoy me when stuff around the house gets ruined, I also LOVE coming across my daughters' "creations" unexpectedly. I've found rocks soaking in buckets with the expectation that they might become snails, my jewelry box hidden under my pillow and stuffed full of cut up ribbons, beer bottles pulled out of the recycling and crammed full of bark. I agree with you 100%--you have to look at what kind of adult is being made in the midst of all the chaos, and then you something really cool and strong and smart.
By the way, that dragon pillow was terribly, terribly cool!
Yes, yes! I completely understand. It is wonderful. It is difficult, but you know it's just the way it should be for every kid. My kids do so many similar things, and it's hilarious and wonderful.
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